Unsolicited Advice

I’m not old and wise yet. But I’m not young and naive any more either. I’ve definitely learned some hard earned lessons over the years. Recently, I have had the pleasure of socializing with younger women whom I adore, but I’m reminded often that a lot changes between 19 and 29. Frequently our conversations lead to me giving them advice on life. From how to book flights to what to do after college, I’m realizing you learn a lot about how to navigate this crazy world.

And so this week, I thought I would share some unsolicited advice that I find myself quite often giving.

  • Travel. As much as you can. As often as you can. Prioritize it. Make it happen. You’ll realize pretty quickly how easy is actually is once you decide to make it work. Nothing will fuel your soul like an escape and an adventure.
  • Be honest. With yourself, with your friends, with your dating prospects, with your job. Stop forcing yourself to be who you think you should be and start being honest about who you really are. Lean into it. I promise you that who you really are is more amazing than who you are pretending to be.
  • Go to counseling. Work through your shit. It will be some of the hardest work you’ll ever do, and it’s not nearly as scary as you are building it up to be.
  • Rinse your sinuses. Seriously.
  • Take epsom salt baths.
  • Learn to set boundaries. With family, with friends, with partners, with work. Let your No be No. The earlier you learn to do this the happier you will be.
  • You don’t have to marry everyone you kiss. Just learn the difference between the fun experiences and the serious ones.
  • Be kind and work hard.
  • Make time for your friends. Get that drink, go to their events, support their work. Reach out and say hi.
  • Learn how to pair your wine with your food. It makes everything better.
  • Find something active that you enjoy. Working out isn’t about being skinny, it’s about using your body and having fun. So find an activity that you look forward to and embrace it.
  • Enjoy your alone time.
  • When in doubt, be gracious.

How about you? What is some life advice that you find yourself often giving?


2 thoughts on “Unsolicited Advice

  1. Katherine Schlick Noe

    Your post reminds me about many of the things “I wish I’d known when I was” 19 or 29 or 39 or 49 …. You’re way ahead of where I was at 29! Thanks for reminding me that life unfolds as it needs to. KSN


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